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		<title>Comment on When you ache over the thought of losin&#8217; him (or her) by Anne</title>
		<link>http://www.rantingwomen.com/women-blogs-books/when-you-ache-over-the-thought-of-losin-him-or-her/#comment-32</link>
		<author>Anne</author>
		<pubDate>Fri, 25 May 2007 02:50:48 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Tre - You are the best person I know to have around during a break-up :)  What a wonderful expression of our need to "complete" ourselves by leaning on another... 

Very thought-provoking for me tonight, as I enter into a fight against lung cancer in my beloved.  I have to consider life without him, or perhaps accept the message that my soul mate may move into another dimension... and how will I live?  I am struggling with this, and trying not to focus on it at all, because the first priority has to be real belief in his recovery.

There may come a time when I really need to absorb this... your love for the world is palpable, my friend .  Bless you for these thoughts tonight...

Anne</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Tre - You are the best person I know to have around during a break-up <img src='http://www.rantingwomen.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />  What a wonderful expression of our need to &#8220;complete&#8221; ourselves by leaning on another&#8230; </p>
<p>Very thought-provoking for me tonight, as I enter into a fight against lung cancer in my beloved.  I have to consider life without him, or perhaps accept the message that my soul mate may move into another dimension&#8230; and how will I live?  I am struggling with this, and trying not to focus on it at all, because the first priority has to be real belief in his recovery.</p>
<p>There may come a time when I really need to absorb this&#8230; your love for the world is palpable, my friend .  Bless you for these thoughts tonight&#8230;</p>
<p>Anne</p>
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		<title>Comment on Dieting Women by SwanCoach</title>
		<link>http://www.rantingwomen.com/weight-loss-women-diets/dieting-women-weight-loss/#comment-31</link>
		<author>SwanCoach</author>
		<pubDate>Fri, 25 May 2007 00:44:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://www.rantingwomen.com/weight-loss-women-diets/dieting-women-weight-loss/#comment-31</guid>
					<description>&lt;a&gt;  Another shift of life priorities. The recent New England Journal of Medicine published report by the Cleveland Clinic's drug crusader, Dr. Steven Nissen, has made it more important than ever to make the decision to take control and not let the disease (and the treatment options) overwhelm. Exercise and diet has become even more important. 

Heart disease is a known consequence of diabetes. Relying on a doctor-ordered treatment program that increases the risk of heart attack and death by heart attack is unacceptable. The alternative?  Becoming even more diligent about a continued exercise program.

My daughter provided me with a weight-lifting manual for Mother's Day ... the perfect gift at precisely the right time. Awareness of the problem, accountability for my actions, and implementing action steps will help me in achieving my goal... drug free reversal of  Type 2 diabetes.&lt;/a&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a>  Another shift of life priorities. The recent New England Journal of Medicine published report by the Cleveland Clinic&#8217;s drug crusader, Dr. Steven Nissen, has made it more important than ever to make the decision to take control and not let the disease (and the treatment options) overwhelm. Exercise and diet has become even more important. </p>
<p>Heart disease is a known consequence of diabetes. Relying on a doctor-ordered treatment program that increases the risk of heart attack and death by heart attack is unacceptable. The alternative?  Becoming even more diligent about a continued exercise program.</p>
<p>My daughter provided me with a weight-lifting manual for Mother&#8217;s Day &#8230; the perfect gift at precisely the right time. Awareness of the problem, accountability for my actions, and implementing action steps will help me in achieving my goal&#8230; drug free reversal of  Type 2 diabetes.</a></p>
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		<title>Comment on &#8220;The Secret&#8221; is in staying connected! by Anne</title>
		<link>http://www.rantingwomen.com/women-blogs-books/the-secret-is-in-staying-connected/#comment-29</link>
		<author>Anne</author>
		<pubDate>Sat, 19 May 2007 01:28:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://www.rantingwomen.com/women-blogs-books/the-secret-is-in-staying-connected/#comment-29</guid>
					<description>Hi Tre!  I emailed you about the chat, but was in the middle of my computer crash... it is possible it wasn't sending correctly.  So, so sorry to have missed you!

I also emailed MollyM, who was on the road, and am hoping she got my note as well.  Hmm... okay - from here out, how about I announce the next chat on the top right  of the screen, under "live chat?"

If Saturday evening 8pm central is good for all... how about that?  Comment here and let me know!

Hugs to you!

Anne</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Tre!  I emailed you about the chat, but was in the middle of my computer crash&#8230; it is possible it wasn&#8217;t sending correctly.  So, so sorry to have missed you!</p>
<p>I also emailed MollyM, who was on the road, and am hoping she got my note as well.  Hmm&#8230; okay - from here out, how about I announce the next chat on the top right  of the screen, under &#8220;live chat?&#8221;</p>
<p>If Saturday evening 8pm central is good for all&#8230; how about that?  Comment here and let me know!</p>
<p>Hugs to you!</p>
<p>Anne</p>
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		<title>Comment on &#8220;The Secret&#8221; is in staying connected! by tresha</title>
		<link>http://www.rantingwomen.com/women-blogs-books/the-secret-is-in-staying-connected/#comment-28</link>
		<author>tresha</author>
		<pubDate>Sat, 19 May 2007 00:53:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://www.rantingwomen.com/women-blogs-books/the-secret-is-in-staying-connected/#comment-28</guid>
					<description>hi all....okay....i missed this...big bummer....didn't even realize it twas happening...bummer again. I need to be better about 'checkin' in and commenting rather than ranting.

wanna giggle? that same mom-of-love :) i ranted about has been telling me all week 'honey! we have to watch 'the secret' and somehow days went by and i just dropped her at the airport and shucks again...she and I didn't ever sit down to see it.....plus she has the book and thought i'd 'get' to it all week...didn't happen either......so i missed a live chat, a dvd, and a book all about this topic 'the secret'
so....either i already know this information :) or it's so important other mundane stuff keeps getting in the way. either way, i wanna read, watch and rant about it.
so lemme know if it's a go to do a live chat again...and maybe there's a 'calendar of events' i ought to be checking for rantingwomen?

as to the law of attraction, an author you will hear me quote time and again (b/c her words have been that transforming) Mary Baker Eddy writes "The good you do and embody gives you the only power obtainable."

I like to remember this...and remind myself along the day to check my thoughts and always rememeber to strive to  see/find the good in any situation.....

Anne, your comments about my 'emailed books' touched my heart. Thank you for that hug. And for your starting this blog. What a blessing, truly, to have moments of connectedness with other women where via cyberspace we're joining hands to support one another and listen, uplift, comfort, and in turn, heal... With joy and hope, Tre :)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>hi all&#8230;.okay&#8230;.i missed this&#8230;big bummer&#8230;.didn&#8217;t even realize it twas happening&#8230;bummer again. I need to be better about &#8216;checkin&#8217; in and commenting rather than ranting.</p>
<p>wanna giggle? that same mom-of-love <img src='http://www.rantingwomen.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> i ranted about has been telling me all week &#8216;honey! we have to watch &#8216;the secret&#8217; and somehow days went by and i just dropped her at the airport and shucks again&#8230;she and I didn&#8217;t ever sit down to see it&#8230;..plus she has the book and thought i&#8217;d &#8216;get&#8217; to it all week&#8230;didn&#8217;t happen either&#8230;&#8230;so i missed a live chat, a dvd, and a book all about this topic &#8216;the secret&#8217;<br />
so&#8230;.either i already know this information <img src='http://www.rantingwomen.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> or it&#8217;s so important other mundane stuff keeps getting in the way. either way, i wanna read, watch and rant about it.<br />
so lemme know if it&#8217;s a go to do a live chat again&#8230;and maybe there&#8217;s a &#8216;calendar of events&#8217; i ought to be checking for rantingwomen?</p>
<p>as to the law of attraction, an author you will hear me quote time and again (b/c her words have been that transforming) Mary Baker Eddy writes &#8220;The good you do and embody gives you the only power obtainable.&#8221;</p>
<p>I like to remember this&#8230;and remind myself along the day to check my thoughts and always rememeber to strive to  see/find the good in any situation&#8230;..</p>
<p>Anne, your comments about my &#8216;emailed books&#8217; touched my heart. Thank you for that hug. And for your starting this blog. What a blessing, truly, to have moments of connectedness with other women where via cyberspace we&#8217;re joining hands to support one another and listen, uplift, comfort, and in turn, heal&#8230; With joy and hope, Tre <img src='http://www.rantingwomen.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /></p>
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		<title>Comment on Motherin&#8217; me by Motherinâ€™ me</title>
		<link>http://www.rantingwomen.com/women-blogs-books/motherin-me/#comment-27</link>
		<author>Motherinâ€™ me</author>
		<pubDate>Mon, 14 May 2007 19:58:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<title>Comment on &#8220;The Secret&#8221; by Carmin</title>
		<link>http://www.rantingwomen.com/women-blogs-books/women-compensation/#comment-26</link>
		<author>Carmin</author>
		<pubDate>Mon, 14 May 2007 16:43:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://www.rantingwomen.com/women-blogs-books/women-compensation/#comment-26</guid>
					<description>Wow, Anne!  As I read your post, I had to look over my 49-year old shoulders to see if you were standing behind me reading my mind.  What in particular am I speaking of?  "I AM worth plenty of money for what I know. My time is valuable, and I simply need to recognize it myself, then assert myself to bill for my time.

This revelation sent me back to so many books I love. All of them say the same thing. You have to ASK for what you want. The universe will provide it. Iâ€™ve been asking for accolades, pats on the back, endearing words. What I need is moolah. Cash is king. Why am I so shy about asking for what I want? Why all the give-aways?"

I could not have said it any better myself.  This is EXACTLY the point at which I find myself - dishing out free advice left and right to people and I need moolah - I deserve moolah (lots of it)!

Get this, and this is BIG:  In your post you wrote (as I show above), "I AM."  Do you know in the Bible this is exactly how God describes himself - I AM.  Powerful stuff.

I have been a student of the Law of Attraction for a long time and I too am a student of "The Secret."  

Yes, I am on board with you for this journey.

Carmin Wharton
Author of "Lessons Learned:While Looking for Love in All the Wrong Faces"</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wow, Anne!  As I read your post, I had to look over my 49-year old shoulders to see if you were standing behind me reading my mind.  What in particular am I speaking of?  &#8220;I AM worth plenty of money for what I know. My time is valuable, and I simply need to recognize it myself, then assert myself to bill for my time.</p>
<p>This revelation sent me back to so many books I love. All of them say the same thing. You have to ASK for what you want. The universe will provide it. Iâ€™ve been asking for accolades, pats on the back, endearing words. What I need is moolah. Cash is king. Why am I so shy about asking for what I want? Why all the give-aways?&#8221;</p>
<p>I could not have said it any better myself.  This is EXACTLY the point at which I find myself - dishing out free advice left and right to people and I need moolah - I deserve moolah (lots of it)!</p>
<p>Get this, and this is BIG:  In your post you wrote (as I show above), &#8220;I AM.&#8221;  Do you know in the Bible this is exactly how God describes himself - I AM.  Powerful stuff.</p>
<p>I have been a student of the Law of Attraction for a long time and I too am a student of &#8220;The Secret.&#8221;  </p>
<p>Yes, I am on board with you for this journey.</p>
<p>Carmin Wharton<br />
Author of &#8220;Lessons Learned:While Looking for Love in All the Wrong Faces&#8221;</p>
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		<title>Comment on Feminism - Is it castrating the American male? by Anne</title>
		<link>http://www.rantingwomen.com/women-blogs-books/feminism-american-males/#comment-25</link>
		<author>Anne</author>
		<pubDate>Wed, 09 May 2007 02:54:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://www.rantingwomen.com/women-blogs-books/feminism-american-males/#comment-25</guid>
					<description>You said it!  His entire argument is against being "lumped," yet there he goes... lumping.

Anne</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You said it!  His entire argument is against being &#8220;lumped,&#8221; yet there he goes&#8230; lumping.</p>
<p>Anne</p>
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		<title>Comment on Feminism - Is it castrating the American male? by pinkukulele</title>
		<link>http://www.rantingwomen.com/women-blogs-books/feminism-american-males/#comment-24</link>
		<author>pinkukulele</author>
		<pubDate>Wed, 09 May 2007 02:50:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://www.rantingwomen.com/women-blogs-books/feminism-american-males/#comment-24</guid>
					<description>The problem here is that the author of the article is "grouping" women. I thought that the idea of feminism was to give women credit for their individual attributes, rather than for just having a vagina. 

When you group them just for being vagina-holders then you can make gross generalisations like he did at the beginning of his article. But when you take each case individually, for example LOOKING at the 85% of children of divorce who end up in the custody of their mothers, then maybe you'll find the legitimate, individual reasons for this statistic. Judges don't have performance quotas for the percentage of children of divorce whom they have to give to their mothers. 

This kind of juvenile argument bugs me no end. 

I think it's important for men and women alike to respect each other for their individual qualities, and not just for their sex. I think if this gentleman recognised this, he wouldn't need to read inflammatory books.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The problem here is that the author of the article is &#8220;grouping&#8221; women. I thought that the idea of feminism was to give women credit for their individual attributes, rather than for just having a vagina. </p>
<p>When you group them just for being vagina-holders then you can make gross generalisations like he did at the beginning of his article. But when you take each case individually, for example LOOKING at the 85% of children of divorce who end up in the custody of their mothers, then maybe you&#8217;ll find the legitimate, individual reasons for this statistic. Judges don&#8217;t have performance quotas for the percentage of children of divorce whom they have to give to their mothers. </p>
<p>This kind of juvenile argument bugs me no end. </p>
<p>I think it&#8217;s important for men and women alike to respect each other for their individual qualities, and not just for their sex. I think if this gentleman recognised this, he wouldn&#8217;t need to read inflammatory books.</p>
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		<title>Comment on The ice is melting away&#8230; by Anne</title>
		<link>http://www.rantingwomen.com/women-blogs-books/the-ice-is-melting-away/#comment-23</link>
		<author>Anne</author>
		<pubDate>Sat, 05 May 2007 23:14:36 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>I love this vein of thinking you are on, Tre... it's just the perfect time of year to think of shedding layers, veils, old, useless thoughts, resentments...

Alas, my computer has shed its hard drive.  I'm on borrowed gigabytes and will write you again soon.

Anne</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I love this vein of thinking you are on, Tre&#8230; it&#8217;s just the perfect time of year to think of shedding layers, veils, old, useless thoughts, resentments&#8230;</p>
<p>Alas, my computer has shed its hard drive.  I&#8217;m on borrowed gigabytes and will write you again soon.</p>
<p>Anne</p>
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		<title>Comment on Self-Indulgent Bullshit by MollyM</title>
		<link>http://www.rantingwomen.com/women-blogs-books/teen-daughters-myspace/#comment-22</link>
		<author>MollyM</author>
		<pubDate>Thu, 03 May 2007 13:22:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://www.rantingwomen.com/women-blogs-books/teen-daughters-myspace/#comment-22</guid>
					<description>Ok - we're supposed to be able to write from the heart here . . . to tell how we really feel about things.  Self-indulgence - at 45, I finally experienced what it felt like to be self-indulgent, to be sure that I had what it took to turns men's - and women's - heads. I spent a lot of time looking in the mirror, and sweetening my voice when men approached to talk.  I know this wasn't the first time in my life that I had ever LOOKED beautiful . . . I was quite a looker though high school and on into my 30's - but I never realized it.  In high school I was too engrossed in my music to notice boys.  I had waist long blonde hair, big blue eyes and a waif-thin figure. I had a natural ear for music and could play the guitar and piano and sang like an angel as well.  No one noticed that - all they noticed was the blonde hair, blue eyes and my budding breasts.  But when I looked in the mirror, all I could see were the crooked teeth. 

After high school, in the Marines, I was too busy being a good Marine and being a single mom to two little boys.  Even though I was 110 lbs. of lean, tanned muscle - and still had the blonde hair and blue eyes - I never wore makeup and kept my hair short for convenience.  Jeans and t-shirts were the only items of clothing hanging in my closet.  I continued to age and wrinkle, found myself in another dead end marriage, put on tons of weight.  Then I was diagnosed with diabetes.  The weight came off.  And after I decided to end the marriage, I took some of my savings and I made an attempt to "heal" my face that was ravaged with years of scars from skin cancer surgery - I had plastic surgery.  The results were remarkable.  I found myself looking in the mirror - a lot - and as long as I didn't open my mouth, I was entranced with what I saw.  For once in my life, I felt beautiful.  I realized why beautiful women are so self-indulgent. IT FELT GOOD!!  I mourned for all those years lost to my self-imposed incarceration in my prison of insecurity.

Six years later, I'm again chubby . . . I still have the blonde hair and the big blue eyes, but the plastic surgery has aged as well.  The wrinkles are back - just in different places.  And I see people looking at me - men especially - in disgust.  I'm the fat, middle aged woman. With the badonga-dong butt. Like the millions of others out there.  It doesn't matter how intelligent I am - it doesn't matter that I was a Marine, that I published magazines, that I was a radio talk show host, that I travel the country in an RV living a life that many would kill for.  I'm the fat, middle aged woman.  

Instead of giving in to the fat, I've chosen to fight it and become thin again.  I'm considering plastic surgery again.  And I will have lumineers put on my teeth as long as we're in a city long enough to get an appointment.  Am I doing it for those who look at me?  No - I'm doing it for ME.  I don't like the way I look - I don't like the way that I look makes me feel.  I'm NOT just another fat, middle aged woman.  I'm a dynamo and my outside should reflect my inside.

I've read all the articles about "accepting yourself as you are".  Well - this isn't the way I was supposed to be - this is the me that I didn't take care of.  I may not have the plastic surgery, but I wlll care for my body and get it into the best shape that it can be in.  I'll not feed it junk anymore.  And I won't feel guilty about the lumineers.

If my body is my temple, it should look like a temple - not like a McDonalds.  If that's self-indulgent, so be it.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ok - we&#8217;re supposed to be able to write from the heart here . . . to tell how we really feel about things.  Self-indulgence - at 45, I finally experienced what it felt like to be self-indulgent, to be sure that I had what it took to turns men&#8217;s - and women&#8217;s - heads. I spent a lot of time looking in the mirror, and sweetening my voice when men approached to talk.  I know this wasn&#8217;t the first time in my life that I had ever LOOKED beautiful . . . I was quite a looker though high school and on into my 30&#8217;s - but I never realized it.  In high school I was too engrossed in my music to notice boys.  I had waist long blonde hair, big blue eyes and a waif-thin figure. I had a natural ear for music and could play the guitar and piano and sang like an angel as well.  No one noticed that - all they noticed was the blonde hair, blue eyes and my budding breasts.  But when I looked in the mirror, all I could see were the crooked teeth. </p>
<p>After high school, in the Marines, I was too busy being a good Marine and being a single mom to two little boys.  Even though I was 110 lbs. of lean, tanned muscle - and still had the blonde hair and blue eyes - I never wore makeup and kept my hair short for convenience.  Jeans and t-shirts were the only items of clothing hanging in my closet.  I continued to age and wrinkle, found myself in another dead end marriage, put on tons of weight.  Then I was diagnosed with diabetes.  The weight came off.  And after I decided to end the marriage, I took some of my savings and I made an attempt to &#8220;heal&#8221; my face that was ravaged with years of scars from skin cancer surgery - I had plastic surgery.  The results were remarkable.  I found myself looking in the mirror - a lot - and as long as I didn&#8217;t open my mouth, I was entranced with what I saw.  For once in my life, I felt beautiful.  I realized why beautiful women are so self-indulgent. IT FELT GOOD!!  I mourned for all those years lost to my self-imposed incarceration in my prison of insecurity.</p>
<p>Six years later, I&#8217;m again chubby . . . I still have the blonde hair and the big blue eyes, but the plastic surgery has aged as well.  The wrinkles are back - just in different places.  And I see people looking at me - men especially - in disgust.  I&#8217;m the fat, middle aged woman. With the badonga-dong butt. Like the millions of others out there.  It doesn&#8217;t matter how intelligent I am - it doesn&#8217;t matter that I was a Marine, that I published magazines, that I was a radio talk show host, that I travel the country in an RV living a life that many would kill for.  I&#8217;m the fat, middle aged woman.  </p>
<p>Instead of giving in to the fat, I&#8217;ve chosen to fight it and become thin again.  I&#8217;m considering plastic surgery again.  And I will have lumineers put on my teeth as long as we&#8217;re in a city long enough to get an appointment.  Am I doing it for those who look at me?  No - I&#8217;m doing it for ME.  I don&#8217;t like the way I look - I don&#8217;t like the way that I look makes me feel.  I&#8217;m NOT just another fat, middle aged woman.  I&#8217;m a dynamo and my outside should reflect my inside.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve read all the articles about &#8220;accepting yourself as you are&#8221;.  Well - this isn&#8217;t the way I was supposed to be - this is the me that I didn&#8217;t take care of.  I may not have the plastic surgery, but I wlll care for my body and get it into the best shape that it can be in.  I&#8217;ll not feed it junk anymore.  And I won&#8217;t feel guilty about the lumineers.</p>
<p>If my body is my temple, it should look like a temple - not like a McDonalds.  If that&#8217;s self-indulgent, so be it.</p>
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